Threesomes: A Love Swingers guide

If you are interested in spicing up your sex life by introducing a new friend into the bedroom, you might be interested in some top tips threesomes so that you won’t do any damage to your relationship.

Threesomes can be a lot of fun and help a couple to expand their sexual horizons with help from a guest. It is a big fantasy for many couples but not every relationship may be ready to handle the added pressure and emotion that can arise from a three way, passionate encounter.

Here are some basic tips and ground rules that you can follow if you are planning threesomes with your partner.

Threesomes: let’s talk about communication

Talk openly and seriously about it first
It’s one thing to read stories and watch pornography, but in order to bring that threesome fantasy to life you need to make sure that your relationship is strong enough for both of you to be comfortable throughout it all.

A good way to get communication started is to think up scenarios you may like to try, talk openly and honestly about what you would and wouldn’t be okay with. Want to have a three way fumble before sex is involved? Need to establish a secret word that means you want to get out of there? Laying your thoughts on the table now will ensure you both know what the other person wants to get from the experience and allows you to get a feel for each other’s dos and don’ts.

Lay down the threesome ground rules

Establish boundaries
If there are certain things during threesomes that you think would make you uncomfortable or jealous establish these boundaries early and make sure to do so with everyone involved. Things may change in the heat of the moment, but it’s good to have a strong idea what you’re looking for and talk about what is okay to happen during the experience.

If you are only comfortable with foreplay or kissing, and you are comfortable with the third person staying the night make sure that this is expressed and discussed with everyone. The more open you can be, the more likely you are to enjoy yourselves. Remember, there’s no harm in saying no and you should never feel pressured into something you don’t wish to be a part of.

Take threesomes slow if you need to

Consider meeting and going out for a social first
Getting to know someone who you welcome into your bedroom can be a sensible approach to handling this type of encounter. When you are searching for a third in your bedroom using community websites like All Swingers you should consider going out in at least one “date” or “social” as it’s often referred to by those familiar with swinging lingo, to get to know the person and to establish your ground rules.

On the flip side, some couples may relish the thought of jumping in with both feet and find that the person they met online is better left as the tall, dark stranger or mysterious, sexy mistress of their fantasy. If it’s the mystery that turns you on, this could be the crux of your steamy encounter, however with not knowing comes the possibility that things might not go exactly as you’ve imagined.

How you interact with your new bedroom buddy comes down to what you want to get out of your first experience, so it’s important that you make use of communication beforehand to get a good idea of what you’d like to happen.

Make sure you know yourself

Remember that jealousy can often occur
Even with good communication and feeling comfortable in the lead up to being part of a threesome, jealousy may always be a factor during your first time. It’s only natural to find yourself in at least one moment during a threesome where you may feel uncomfortable.

You’re emotionally attached to your partner and seeing their hands (and other bits) on another person is going to be something you’ll need to become comfortable with. That may take time or it may come naturally, but it’s how you handle your emotions in the moment that will shape your experience into a positive one and go towards strengthening your relationship.