Single swingers – Whether you’re a guy or a gal, being a single swinger can be as daunting as it is exciting, and depending on which side of the gender scale you fall your experience and approach can differ greatly.
Male single swingers
If you’re a single male trying to become part of the lifestyle, the best piece advie you can take on board is to make an effort to understand what couples are looking for and why they want you to be involved in their sexual exploits.
Male single swingers are a constant source of conversation and debate amongst those in the lifestyle, as their approach can vary from the utmost respect and desire, to those that send “you ok hun xxx” as their opening gambit and are just after a quick, emotionless fuck. As with anything that involves human nature, responses will always differ greatly from person to person.
What shouldn’t you do as a single male swinger?
By far the worst approach is to believe that you’re the one guy everyone is looking for – there’s always a better physique, a more appropriate penis size and a better looking option out there, so try to approach a couple or new partner with a good degree of humility.
If you go into swinging thinking a picture of your penis and a three word pick up line is going to instantly get you laid, then you’re better off sticking to your favourite porn site to get your kicks, because most of the time nobody will give you the time of day.
Swingers are normally respectful, discreet and friendly and they will expect that from single swingers in return, so let’s have a look at some things you can do to make the best of your experience.
What should you do as a single male swinger?
Take your time and put the effort into your approach. Yes, some couples may actually want you to wander in, put up a good performance, then waltz away into the distance, but that’s not often the case.
If you’re looking to make some great connections and meet up for horny fun regularly, approach each couple you encounter with the courtesy and respect they deserve. Remember, while being discreet it’s still easy to show off the goods without instantly resorting to a cock pic.
Send a message that does you justice – introducing you as a worthy partner. Say what you’re into, what you’re like as a person, and ask some genuine questions about what kind of experience they are after. You’ll be surprised by the positive response you receive.
Female single swingers
A single female swinger – often known as a unicorn due to their relative rarity in the lifestyle – have the toughest job of all, and that’s dealing with a whole host of male and couple attention from the day you set mouse cursor in a swinger’s site.
You might find yourself swamped with various message of varying quality, and it can often be overbearing, but it does give you a unique standpoint from which you can have a little more control over who you choose to have fun with.
What shouldn’t you do as a single female swinger?
As with anything, try to keep that humility in your approach. It’s fine to let people know your dislikes, but try not to goo too far, as it’s easy to let that regular attention go to your head. Staying positive and friendly will open up way more avenues and provide more high quality meets for you than acting as the ultimate sexual diva.
Don’t forget to respect the boundaries of any couples that you play with. You don’t want to get yourself into a situation whereby you overly flirt with one or the other, and potentially cause friction in their relationship. Try to stay open and communicative, and make sure to keep everyone involved in your naughty plans.
What should you do as a single female swinger?
Most importantly, female single swingers should make sure to take precautions, both for your own safety and sexually, and only meet people that you trust. Always meet first in a public, social environment at least once to discuss your sexy encounters so that you can make sure you’re dealing with someone you’re comfortable with.
We always recommend safe sex, so if safe sex is a must for you then contraception is something you should always bring with you, no matter how certain you are that your partner will bring it.